@vampvoya@eh27g@odeture i genuinely hope youāre apologizing to yielle because you recognize that you also did something wrong and want to take accountability for the harm you caused, not because you still want to explain it through the fact that you were ātricked/manipulatedā into the relationship.
@eh27g@Iucidstate especially when someoneās actions cross a line that we personally canāt support. walking away from a friendship because your values no longer align isnāt cowardiceāitās having boundaries.
@eh27g@Iucidstate i realized that his choices no longer aligned with my own morals and boundaries. you choosing to stay and continue supporting him is your choice, but that doesnāt make the people who chose to leave cowards. weāre allowed to decide who we want in our lives,
@eh27g@odeture@vampvoya iām not saying that his mental state shouldnāt be taken into consideration. iām saying that we can understand why someone acted a certain way without treating that understanding as a defense against accountability.
@eh27g@odeture@vampvoya i get what youāre saying, and thatās fair in itself, but thatās not what i was originally objecting to. i never said bpd couldnāt provide context. my issue was the way that context was initially being used to frame criticism of noaās actions as āmaliciousā +
@eh27g@odeture@vampvoya if there was nothing wrong with the situation, why make him sound older? š especially when the age gap was already something noa knew about. i really donāt understand how you can say he was completely ātrickedā into the situation when he was clearly aware of the circumstances.
@eh27g@odeture@vampvoya noa even lied to me about yielleās age when he told me about their age gap, saying yielle was already 16 when he was actually only 15 at the time. like why did he even need to lie about yielleās age in the first place? +
my conversation with yielle just recently. everything mentioned in this post has been shared with yielleās permission, as we made sure to prioritize his safety and well-being.
because we refuse to let this be buried without proper accountability, this is a blunt exposure of isenoa/lara, also user @vampvoya /miseryhazard/imnaculades/slitvamps
tl;dr for convenience: noa, who was then 18-19, dated a 15 year old. i still encourage reading the full post.
not promoting female-led projects properly so it doesn't perform as well and they can use that as proof no one wants them, the oldest damn trick in the book