Nicholas Grant @FullyKnownExp

this is a skill issue, it’s really not that hard, you really just have to listen to women and cultivate empathy. the way women feel about men is closer to the way you feel about whether you’d go into battle with a man than the way you feel about women

Daniel @growing_daniel

a month ago

men do not understand why or how women find them attractive

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You probably don't spend enough time playing with your balls

This is a much better way to ask the question if we're trying to find the people genuinely willing to sacrifice for humanity.

Shibetoshi Nakamoto @BillyM2k

3 months ago

everyone in the world has to take a private vote by pressing a red or blue button if more than 50% of people press the blue button, everyone dies if less than 50% of people press the blue button, only people who pressed the red button die which button would you press?

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Every guy we've worked with has been interesting, fuckable, charismatic, and attractive. Every guy we've worked with was also actively inhibiting their own God given drives and intentions. These are the guys who would have waited for a second marshmallow in that study where kids were told they would get an extra marshmallow if they waited for a couple extra minutes. These guys inhibited instinctual impulses to get better results (two marshmallows). They waited to become more attractive, have more money, become dominant in some way, or for divine timing to reward them with everything they wanted from women without the risk. It's like they were told, "just wait and I'll come back with two marshmallows." and nobody came back with two marshmallows. Even worse. Someone else stole the first marshmallow while they were waiting with their backs turned. One client in particular concluded, as a teenager, after being rejected a couple times, he must be ugly and decided he had to wait until he could make himself more attractive by working out enough, making enough money, or you name it. He'd all but refused to approach or talk to women since. But it was so obvious to us and our gang of girls back here in Austin that he was a catch. Every girl said the same thing: the only thing turning them off was that they could sense he was telling himself he wasn't good enough yet, which made them feel rejected and judge him as self absorbed. He's not doing that anymore. He finally opened up after hours of prodding. The girls' reactions were night and day. They were connecting directly with an unfiltered man, instead of staring at a dude with untapped potential. By the end, they were happy as can be to sit down and flirt with such a stud. So I say, gentlemen, while impulse inhibition can be a very good thing, double check your results. Ask that all too embarrassing question. did I just get duped? Did I wait for nothing? Is waiting in this context actually getting me what I want? Am I about to sunk cost my lost investment and wait even longer? or do I need to be giving myself permission to act more instinctively and learn through some good old fashioned trial and error.

Dating is like this too

𝒢𝒾𝓁𝒷ℯ𝓇𝓉 @AbakpaJob

3 months ago

people think writing is about being smart but actually it's about being honest which is way harder

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Strongly agree. Our practice has converged, like many before it, on the feeling of curiosity doing all the work. Inducing curiosity is that gem of a skill so many are in need of

Joe Hudson @FU_joehudson

4 months ago

High-quality, attuned, curious attention. It is one of the scarcest resources today. It also happens to be the key ingredient in healing andtransformation.

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Well, said. I'm not against cold approach, but I'm very much for men learning to inhabit the physical and tonal awareness necessary to interpret these signals for a warm approach. This happened the other night actually. hanging with friends and one of the new girls looked at an acquaintance and said, 'i'm mad you stopped asking me questions'. He got all tiffy, like 'why are you mad at me?? I'm just talking'. I grabbed him and told him, 'you know she just told you she likes you right!?' She looked at me, blushed, and giggled with her girlfriend. He reacted with 'ohhhhhh' and a smile. They had a nice long talk after that :) I swear to God most men don't need any technical coaching, they just need a little awareness training. A little sending and receiving language of the tone and body as it were

Devon Eriksen @Devon_Eriksen_

4 months ago

No. This is not actually a choice that women need to make. Almost everyone is confused about this, because the actual, functional mating customs of civilized humanity were almost entirely lost in the baby boomer great reset. In civilized humans, courtship between the sexes is

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jfc guys you're plowing through our earlybird tickets! If you want the 30% discount there's not actually that many left, price will go up pretty soon.

Aella @Aella_Girl

5 months ago

Gender discourse is poisoned. Radfems are in denial about what tursns women on, and the manosphere alternatives are just war for no good reason. We're hoping to fix that! Come to Slutcon, where good sex means *everyone* wins:

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When do you trust emotions, feelings, and impulses? I do NOT trust an emotion in myself or anyone else if I only feel it in my face and neck. These ones tend to be highly manipulative (think crocodile tears) I DO trust an emotion if I feel it in my back or all the way down to my toes. Think anxiety that flushed your face vs. fear that made the hair on the back of your neck stand up I do NOT trust feelings inspired by an all good or all bad story. Feel the isolation when you think (she's so cold when I'm being vulnerable) I DO trust feelings when I can still hold complexity. Feel the curiosity and discernment when you think (She's closed off. I wonder what her motivations are. I know I usually close off when I'm scared and protecting something. She could also be hiding something dangerous to me. let's find out)

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We'll be doing a little group web coaching again next month working with attachment issues for you avoidant guys, clear intentions and self belief for you anxious gentlemen, and deepening subtle communication skills for any of you guys who already have a good baseline and want to play on a deeper level Link below, see you there 👌

If you ever get stuck in those loops where you keep thinking of every reason you're broken, stuck, pitiful, and worthless... your not and, those thoughts can plague the best of us, even guys like my friend Dave, who's got mountains of external success to prove otherwise. whoever you are, however deep your hole of despair is, the journey out of that hole is still the same one foot in front of the other. here's a short story of Dave sinking into self pity, and walking himself back out with the help of a close friend.

Limitless Brave @LimitlessBrave

6 months ago

Loneliness Pity Party 😢

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everything in service, and served with discernment, intent, and absolute responsibility more and more i find myself asking how I can best serve home, friends, clients, community, earth, body, and even the future lovers, children, self, and community I haven't met yet and, every step in that direction has led to vastly more fulfillment than any step I ever took in the "how do I get people to understand me, see me, acknowledge me, or value me" direction

one of the coolest things we added to our process this quarter is an anti-vision. Basically, tell me how your business meeting or date is going to fail miserably. it's great. once you say it out loud, you almost can't help but have a laugh and the fear/anxiety just slips away

so good leadership can be seen in this sense as head servant of your mutual goals

in a typical male female relationship, us men will actually receive her frame into our own. you receive her needs, wants, desires and the energy that comes with. then, direct within your own frame. rather than one or the other. not competition, but inclusion. same with leadership. rather than a battle of who wins (though some contexts, like war, and competition for limited resources, this will be the case), cooperatively, the leader will be the one who can include everyone else's frame within their own

"frame control" is not quite what's going on in a really juicy cooperative relationship. it's more like, do your frames match enough that one person's frame can rest inside the other's in any given context

What is this platonic practice that gets orgy loving women so excited? I have a story to tell.

@vincent_yc_li 😈😈

when you respect yourself so hard that you walk away hard 💪🍆