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Intelligence in the Age of Mechanical Reproduction open.substack.com/pub/charleseis…

You're not meant to be emotionally regulated all the time. Being dysregulated can help us. Here's Why:

"All you really need to do is accept this moment fully. You are then at ease in the here and now and at ease with yourself." - Eckhart Tolle

1. First, ask yourself: Why am I getting up? The most compelling reason to get to bed early is the reason you want to wake up. If you don’t have shit you’re excited to do, then of course you’re going to watch another re-run of Melrose Place (shout out to Heather Locklear).

As long as we believe that we need things to make us happy, we shall also believe that in their absence we must be miserable. Mind always shapes itself according to its beliefs. Hence the importance of convincing oneself that one need not be prodded into happiness;

The tipping point has arrived in the UK; parents are fed up and taking action to roll back the phone-based childhood. Here is Sophie Winkleman, on how its not enough to remove harmful content... spectator.co.uk/article/why-im…

@evernote 6) one click put note in trash (eg. like in mail inbox)

@evernote Just moved from legacy PC but glad new PC version is improving! WISH LIST PLS (for ios & pc): 1) One Click to create new note (not other options) 2) One Click to see 'All Notes' 3) See related internal notes in context 4) Customizable menus/buttons 5) Legacy style skin 🙏

@evernote Main feature i am missing from previous legacy version is internal "context notes'. ie. showing any of my own related notes that are similar to the new note being created. I get a lot of quotes that i save to Evernote so would be good to know it is already saved / just duplicated

@fedesimio On desktop PC when left column is the minimum size- i just want one indivvidual button / one click to create 'new note'. Currently there is one big green button with + but when i click on it i still have to choose 'new note' - so two clicks....not ideal IMHO

@fedesimio really need 'legacy style skin' or new skins please please as i use blue screen filters eg. (.flux) / night light / paper setting on monitor so the desktop PC version is seriously bland.

@fedesimio why does it lag and take so long to create a new note (new desktop user, ex legacy user since 2012 )

@fedesimio Late here but i definitely want a link/tile to 'all notes' so thats option 2. Option 1 is bugging me like crazy. Ideally we would be given customizable options. eg. Add link to 'my widgets' / 'all notes' / 'recent notes' or failing that - open last view link in the desktop app?

@fedesimio im glad new note can be created with one click. However the new home page on ios is v. annoying. My Favourite view in app and desktop (ex legacy user) is the 'all notes' screen. Now i need to perform two taps to see all notes which seems a waste when i use the app many times

@HoplitaPluma @fedesimio just moved from legacy, thats exactly what i want too - multiple language spell check and legacy skin

@evernote Phew! glad i saw this as that slash command was really annoying! Where best to post feedback / comments / bugs / feature requests?

Just finished this book - Bad Therapy by @AbigailShrier This is one of the most eye-opening books I've ever read. It's a must read for any parent, any teacher, and should be required reading for any school administrator as well. The book dives into trying to figure out why kids are having so many mental health problems, when there are so many resources devoted to improving mental health outcomes. Anxiety, depression, suicide, etc are all higher than they've ever been with kids, even though their lives are arguably better than ever before. It just doesn't make sense. A few key takeaways from the book: A constant attention on how kids are "feeling" or "thinking" is causing negative outcomes. Constantly ruminating on your emotions and how you feel negatively impacts your mental health. If all you do is focus on your emotions, you are destined to be anxious or depressed. We incessantly ask kids how they're feeling, if they're happy, how their mental health is, etc, and this is creating kids who think they're fragile instead of resilient. Trying to solve every problem for kids has caused a generation who can't do anything for themselves. We (Gen X) were told to "suck it up" or "you'll live" or "rub some dirt on it" all the time. Many of us came to the conclusion this is "bad parenting" because our feelings were neglected, and we vowed not to do this to our own children. Because of that, kids immediately over-dramatize everything that happens to them, making mountains out of molehills, and thinking the world must revolve around their emotions and feelings. You develop confidence and strong mental health by doing things, not by thinking or via therapy. You can't think your way out of anxiety. You don't gain confidence by analysis of your thoughts or mental health issues. You gain confidence and eliminate anxiety by doing gradually more difficult tasks, excelling at them, and realizing you are a competent, capable person. The non-stop attention therapy gives to these small, common emotions we all feel blows them out of proportion to their seriousness (not talking about genuine disorders here, just normal anxieties that millions of people go to therapy to try to avoid). One of the best ways to decrease your happiness is to chase it. Our society constantly tells kids they should be "happy" and asks them if they are. Happiness isn't a state you should be in 24/7. That's not realistic. Joy and bliss aren't permanent states - they are fleeting. Contentment, stillness, and being even-keeled are much better goals to aim for mentally. The happiest, most well adjusted kids come from families with loving parents that have strict rules for the household. This one really set off the confirmation bias in me... I feel really blessed we have 2 well adjusted middle school kids who do great in school, are very respectful and well mannered, and we barely even need to parent them. But for years, we were very strict with them. Bedtimes, family rules, how we do things, etc. The in-laws and lots of friends thought we were totalitarian. In reality, we just had high standards. And it's really paying off right now. I found it really interesting that strict rules equals happy kids. Makes sense, though, as kids need to know what their boundaries are. Constantly surveying school-age kids about their mental health causes more issues than it solves. Mental health resources is big money. Districts need to validate all the resources allocated towards mental health, and they often do that via surveys. Asking kids non-stop questions like: - Have you thought about self harm? - Have you thought about suicide? - Have you been so anxious you can't get out of bed? Etc, etc puts into their heads the idea that themselves, or many of their peers are broken and cannot function properly in the real world. It normalizes situations that would be incredibly rare at any other time in history. There's a lot of other takeaways, too, but I'll stop there. It's a fantastic book. Go pick it up and read it. This isn't an affiliate thing or a promotion thing at all. I just really enjoyed it, and it will further shape the way I parent moving forward.

“Happiness is not merely a destination but a journey within, where the treasures of contentment, joy, and peace await us.” - His Holiness Radhanath Swami #happiness #joy #peace #radhanathswami

“The key to prayer is to speak with sincerity, gratitude, honesty, and humility.” - His Holiness Radhanath Swami #prayer #gratitude #radhanathswami

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