Bottomwinter @bottomwinter

Savage Love - Some people twist themselves into knots so they can have what they want without having to admit they want it. by Dan Savage I'm a 26-year-old cis queer woman. My best friend has identified publicly as asexual for the past two years. She ... ow.ly/sGmS50gVYCY

Savage Love - Summary: Maybe he just doesn't know what love feels like. by Dan Savage I'm a 33-year-old woman from Melbourne, Australia, dating a 24-year-old man. We've been dating for about eight months; it is exclusive and official. He's kind and sw... ow.ly/81fG50gQcha

Savage Love - We all have different porn preferences, and that's okay. by Dan Savage I'm an 18-year-old cis hetero girl from Australia and I've been listening to your podcast and reading your column since I was 13. Thanks to you I'm pretty open minded... ow.ly/QeWt50gLp3V

Links - The following is a list of links that relate to my slideshow presentation Shocking the System: When Your True Life Tales Cross the Line. EroticonThe presentation will be given March 3, 2018 at Shameless Grounds in St Louis, MO, and on March 18... ow.ly/qTeC50gHBbQ

The Baking Kind - Remember this RFT article that shocked the local community eight years ago? Take a moment to skim it, then let’s replace all the sex references with more innocuous FOOD references and see how it reads. Not as shocking, ey? Why is tha... ow.ly/jC8i50gGKXr

Savage Love - Quickies by Dan Savage I recently stumbled on an Instagram account of a young woman who's a "knife play" enthusiast. I consider myself sex-positive, but I must say I was disturbed by the images. I was also shocked that I didn't know this... ow.ly/Zraf50gFPzx

My Life Milestones - I’m 44 years old, turning 45 on Mar 23! Here is my life trajectory so far: 1973: I’m born in North Dakota. Brrrr! My birthday suit, aka my first nude photoshoot 1974: My family moves to Dallas, Texas. 1975: Who the hell knows. 197... ow.ly/iOyJ50gEX3M

Rooting for Owen - I had a wonderful consultation with a 77-year-old man named Owen (he gave me permission to share his story, changing details to protect his identity). Owen looks like a sweet, happy Grandpa, and he is just that. But underneath the b... ow.ly/m08k50gDgfK

My Top Sex-Positive Recommendations - Kendra Holliday will help you work the kinks out! I offer sex and relationship consulting, and I’m happy to say that I’ve been getting more women, LGBT folks, and couples these days. Historically, most of the peop... ow.ly/TQH750gC62k

Bi & Biphobia - Advice from America's sweetheart, Dan Savage. by Dan Savage I'm an 18-year-old female. I'm cisgender and bisexual. I've been in a monogamous relationship with my cisgender bisexual boyfriend for about a year. I'm currently struggling w... ow.ly/Hipl50gAk3B

A Gun to My Head - Ed Note: This post was written in 2009. It is the only post I have ever published that was untrue, in that I combined two scenes into one story – one involving rape fantasy in a parking garage, the other being gunplay in my home. Bo... ow.ly/AMOg50gxiOv

Fighting Words - Summary: Two girlfriends is one girlfriend too many. by Dan Savage I'm a 24-year-old nonbinary person living in Florida. I have two wonderful girlfriends. One I have been with for four years (we live together). The other I have been w... ow.ly/sSkU50gu6zD

Why I Have Sensitive Nipples - Me, years ago When I was 19, I was a stripper. My job was to get really close to men and arouse them. Their job was not to touch my breasts or genital area. I did my job well, but they often tried sneaking a feel of the ... ow.ly/tSLL50gsroG

Savage Love - Can a straight guy call himself a "bear"? by Dan Savage How does one get into the gay BDSM bottoming and leather scene? Seeking Answers Concerning Kink One shows up, SACK. "Eighty percent of success is just showing up," someone or other ... ow.ly/Ib8550gqo82

Old Relationship Energy - I love Gwenn Seemel’s “The Kiss” featuring bonobos so much better than Klimt’s version! Do you know the term “New Relationship Energy“? It’s popular in polyamory circles, and describes that giddy infatuation feeling when you’... ow.ly/etJN50gkhtX

Savage Love - Should a lesbian pursue a straight coworker? by Dan Savage I am a 38-year-old lesbian, very femme, very out. I have a coworker I can't figure out. We've worked together for a year and gotten very close. I never want to put out the wrong ... ow.ly/iBil50gkewZ

“I Want to Please You” - Ready to party! So many men are sick from toxic masculinity in our society. They have to be very manly, which involves taking care of business, being in charge, hiding feelings, and burying their feminine side. They crave a pl... ow.ly/lTKK50ghgl7

Savage Love - He had sex with his mom—so what? by Dan Savage My father left my mother abruptly when I was 14 years old, and he hasn't contacted either of us since. It was a crushing blow for her, and she retreated from the world. She was never bitter ... ow.ly/Yn3g50gf3o5

Naughty Tea Time - My friend has been 30+ days sober, and he’s been drinking a lot of tea. So have I! So he asked if I wanted to join him for tea at the London Tea Room sometime, and I said YES, I would love to, but how about if he came over to my pla... ow.ly/bWuJ50gaQSa

Savage Love - Professional dominatrix thought she'd seen everything—until this happened. by Dan Savage I'm a professional dominatrix, and I thought I'd seen everything in the last five years. But this situation completely baffled the entire dungeon. T... ow.ly/fm7v50ga11l